Be in Your Truth. The Truth Can Change Your Life.

With so many people working from home nowadays, people are really starting to become aware of the where they are at in their lives. What does it feel like? Do you feel different at home? In semi-isolation? With your partners? On zoom with your family and friends? With yourself? You may be becoming aware of emotions, energy, thoughts, or dreams that were already there. Sometimes it feels great, sometimes you want to run out of the room.

In society, we often make agreements to be a certain way. This can inform how you show up with family, friends, lovers, or at work. At work, it might be that everyone is quiet and works really hard. With partners, it might be modesty or being the provider and caretaker.

Everything is energy. You have your own unique energy. So does everyone else. The thing is that energy can and does get mixed up. During this time of social distancing, you may be starting to notice what really is your truth.

Those first few years after I came out, I came across a lot of questions regarding how I dress. I loved in a smaller town that had a clear expectation on lesbian fashion. I loved to dress up, but there was a silent expectation to dress a particular way to fit in with the group. This was when Abercrombie, Express, and The Gap were all really popular; polo shirts/t-shirts, jeans/big belts, doc martins, etc. This was a difference from my more feminine presentation. In a smaller town, if you don’t fit in, your sexuality becomes in question. A few years later, I decided to adjust what I wore, my mannerisms, and even expression of gender to fit into the lesbian world around me. I was no longer questioned but seen. Yet, I wasn’t making friends, dating, or having the relationship I wanted.

Once I began to explore my own truth, I began to understand a bit about my own energy: what is and isn’t mine. As this understanding grew, I started to realize that what I was doing wasn’t really my truth. Sure, I was respected and seen in the lesbian community. But at what costs?

At some point, I think we all realize something about living in our truth. Trying to live up to those expectations and demands can feel stressful. You may feel restless, nervous in your skin, or back in the closet in a way. The truth is, your truth feels good to you and will always validate your life. When you are in someone truth, your life may not be fulfilling. Taking a step into your truth can happen at any time in you life. For many, during our current times, it’s like breaking out the butterfly cocoon. But change doesn’t have to happen only during a midlife crisis or dramatic turning points.

When I began to explore my truth, I started to see what I looked and felt like. I slowly started to let go other people’s expectations. I pushed myself to try feminine clothing and explore heels - not always the most comfortable at times. There were plenty of tears from years of not being true to myself. I pushed myself because I wanted to see what would happen. That’s when the magic happened. In being in my truth, I started to see my desire in front of me! I made new friends, started dating, feel in love, was seen in the queer community, and most importantly I felt good. Being in my truth really worked for my life.

When you are in your truth, you may feel happy, seen, and validated. Consider the people in your life who have “come out” and suddenly look happier. They have a certain spark to them. Consider even people who step into their truth and the impact of that is visceral; they lose weight, pursue their dreams, fall in love, reach new goals, appear to glow, aren’t afraid to be seen, etc. Being in your truth makes a difference in your life. Choice You. Choice to be in our truth and see how your life changes.